Creating a “Team” Approach to Family Finances
We had a powerful discussion about work family balance and finances on our recent Thursdays with ThirdPath webinar. Missed it? Check out the YouTube link we’ve created for you. Scott Behson also provides some great advice on this topic in his book – Working Dad’s Survival Guide.
Read on for a few of Scott’s words of wisdom:
1 – You May Need to Choose – Big Bucks or Work Life Balance
Scott references Warren Farrell’s book at the start of his discussion of family finances. He does this because, as Scott explains, “among other things, jobs that require or strongly encourage extensive travel, long commutes, long work weeks… earn significantly more than jobs that are more stable, have more regular and reasonable hours, and do not make such time-based or psychological demands.” However, Scott also reminds us that jobs that pay less may have other non-financial benefits, like “more satisfying work, better work-life balance, less stress and more free time.”
2 – Success Is the Freedom to Live by Your Priorities
Throughout the section that focuses on family finances, Scott argues, “My over-arching philosophy when it comes to finances, work and family, is that the key to success is the freedom to act in accordance with our priorities.” To do this, Scott encourages his readers to be careful around the big financial choices they make, like the decision to buy a house. “Maybe instead of working harder and sacrificing family time, you can free up time by examining and reducing these large expenses.”
3 – There is a Lot to Gain From Smart Budgeting
Scott talks about the value of creating a family budget. In fact he compares it to something he does at his workplace. In August his organization creates a very conservative budget, “not quite a worst-case scenario, but a bad-case scenario.” Then, a few months later when they have a better handle on their financial picture, they create a second budget. This second budget is almost always better than what was originally projected, and as a result, people are more at liberty to spend on things that are “nice to have” not just “need to have.” Scott points out, “If we do 85% budgeting, we have more slack in our finances to accommodate unexpected expenses.” In contrast, “If your regular income and regular expenses simply equal out, your finances can be compared to a rope already taut. With no slack, the rope has no more capacity to be stretched further without fraying.”
4 – Create a Team Approach to Your Financial Goals
Scott ends the chapter by encouraging parents to talk through different options with each other to create a common plan. He concludes with one father’s illustrative story. “My wife and I talked about my transition from a long-hours, good-paying job with good benefits to going out on a limb and starting my own consultancy… We had some financial cushion, but it was scary. Now I can have a much more family kind of lifestyle, and we can share the load more easily at home. The fact that my wife and I talked all the implications through – what does this mean for our mortgage, for college savings, for health insurance, for her work? – made the transition so much better.”
We also know real and lasting change will only happen when societies support men and women to share in the work of earning income and caring for their families. Want help designing your Shared Care work-family solution? Check out our “Work Family Options Resource Book.”
After Fifteen Months of Chronic Overwork, I Still Have One More Month to Go
The last 15 months have been challenging, not just because of some unexpected life events (learn more), but also because our organization is growing. Growth is a good thing. We want to reach more people with our exciting and important mission. But the trick is figuring out how to have growth happen at approximately the same rate as our capacity to manage this growth.
Luckily, at ThirdPath we very purposefully build in slower periods of work over the summers so we can make changes to address these types of issues. In fact, this summer we put a great plan in place to manage this growth. However, hiring and training people takes time, so my chronic overwork continued through the end of the year, and I’m hoping it will be behind me in the next month (or two).
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I like to tell people to think of their capacity for work as a glass of water.
Is your glass filled to the brim? Overflowing? Or do you have a little wiggle room at the top of the glass?
When managing my capacity for work, I’ve learned to very intentionally plan around busier and less busy periods of work – or continuing with the glass analogy – to plan for the times when my glass is filled to the brim and spilling over versus when I have a little extra room at the top. If I’ve done a good job preparing for a busy period, I have created extra support and good personal habits to handle this peak period more effectively.
During slower periods, I use the “extra room” in my glass to make changes that will improve how I work going forward. I systematize processes, re-prioritize tasks, and decide what to delegate so that I have more time for what I am uniquely qualified to do.
It turns out working this way isn’t just good for you, it’s also good for your organization. It means you are better able to manage the unexpected – both at work and outside of work. It also means I come to work more refreshed, and better able to keep my perspective about what’s really an emergency and what’s really most important. However, this Fall, I could tell living with this on-going level of stress wasn’t good for me.
When constantly in a state of overwork I began to notice how smaller things pushed me off balance very easily.
I was quick to lose my perspective. I even caught myself working less efficiently, and even making some mistakes.
In October, my husband and I planned a long weekend away to celebrate my birthday. I pride myself in my ability to turn off work while on vacation, and I was able to do this during this trip as well. But even with this break, when I got back to work, I was shocked to see how quickly I returned to the same stressed perspective I had before vacation.
Once again there was a task that needed to get done that was going to require more time than I had available. And just like before vacation, it pushed me immediately into a stressed response, instead of being able to step back and imagine a more creative solution.
The truth is with so many months of stress behind me and a few more to go, I shouldn’t be surprised that I’m still behaving this way.
I didn’t do anything wrong. Growth is good. Life happens. ThirdPath has also developed and begun to implement a plan that will end this period of overwork. But I also have to admit that during the last 15 months, sometimes I have traveled to a bit of a dark place. A place where I start losing hope, and believing things will never change.
Luckily I have developed and maintained a number of good habits to regain my normally optimistic outlook. I exercise regularly. My husband cooks amazing healthy dinners for our family. I carve out routine times during my work week without calls or meetings so I can get focused work done. And all year long I relied on my staff to help me keep focused on my top priority work.
When I get overloaded, I also try to remember to stop and take a walk, or to call a friend, or to do both. This helps remind me that it is probably the chronic overwork that is causing me to see things worse than they are. But I’m also really tired of it, and I’m looking forward to a much more balanced 2017!
Did you make a New Year’s resolution to push back at overwork and create more time for life? Let us help you.
Check out our free resources, including our “Key Integration Practices” handout.
Revolutionary ThirdPath Community Members Changing Work and Life
ThirdPath has become the premier work/life organization supporting men and women – as both parents and leaders – to achieve integrated lives.
We were able to do this by learning from you.
You’ve taught us meaningful change can only really come about when we look at our lives from an integrated perspective – we need to make changes at work AND changes at home. Read on to see just a few of the ways ThirdPath’s amazing community members are changing the world.
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Revolutionary work practices … This month’s “Meet the Pioneer” story illustrates how to put these ideas into practice, including practical ideas for shaping a flexible work team.
Revolutionary parents … But our community members also taught us how changes at home are linked to changes at work.
Changing What We Do at Home Changes Our Workplaces
Gay or straight, living together or separate, when both mothers and fathers are supported to flex work around the needs of children, great things happen.
Both parents learn how to work more effectively
They learn how to: reduce interruptions; focus on tasks that make the best use of their skills; eliminate lower priority tasks; strategically delegate; use slow periods to re-prioritize work and put more efficient processes into practice.
Both parents learn how to manage changes in schedules
Parents can work together to handle predictable and unpredictable changes such as school closings, snow days and a sick child. They can also help each other out to manage the ups and downs of their workloads.
Families have more “wiggle room” to plan for what’s needed next
Families need time to for many small things (when to get the car fixed) and big things too (how to make the most of summers, or how to manage a job relocation). Having time to anticipate and organize around these changes increases the likelihood of developing the best possible solutions.
Organizations learn how to develop less gendered career paths
Normalizing both parents involvement in family care, doesn’t just change our assumptions about gender at home, it also changes our assumptions at work.
Both men and women become role models for the next generation
When fathers are supported to be active parents at home, and mothers and fathers learn how to work as a team to meet work and family needs, both parents become powerful role models for their children.
We explored the importance of flexibility at work and at home at our last Pioneering Leaders Summit – a biennial event that brings together all of ThirdPath’s “integrated leaders”. Are you a leader who has moved ahead at work while also creating time and energy for your life outside of work? Contact us. We’d like to tell you more about our plans for Pioneering Leader Summit 2017.
Millennial Dads – Changing Our Workplaces and Families
Did you know that two-thirds of millennial men want to share caregiving responsibilities at home?
We learned about this from the wonderful Boston College Center on Work and Family report “The New Millennial Dad.”
It also got us thinking about what a positive impact this change would have on families, workplaces, women’s careers and our larger society!
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For over 15 years, ThirdPath has been working with dads who have designed very diverse ways to succeed at work while also being an actively involved in the care of their children. Like today’s millennials, these dads were interested in finding ways to share caregiving responsibilities.
Bill started parenthood as an attorney working full time, Alexandra his partner, worked an 80% schedule in marketing.
“After the birth of our first son, Alexandra worked an 80% schedule (every Friday off). Seven years later, after the birth of our third son, Alexandra asked me to reduce my schedule so I could take on more responsibility at home and she could maintain her career. In response, I went to an 80% schedule (every Monday off).
“One year later, with a newly assigned manager, I met resistance to my schedule because of the workplace and societal views of men’s roles, and was told I would have to go full time. I pushed back and negotiated a 90% schedule (every other Friday off). Shortly thereafter, Alexandra was promoted and asked to go full time. In response, she followed my lead and negotiated a 90% schedule (taking the alternative Friday off). We maintained that for four years.”
Ultimately Bill ended up changing his career and staring a web design business. Today, they have settled into a healthy dynamic, where Alexandra works from home two days a week and Bill has plenty of flexibility from owning his own business.
Brett started parenthood as an attorney working full time. Together, he and his partner decided Angelike would become the stay at home parent.
“Angelike and I have been very focused on insuring that each of us can live a fulfilling and varied life. That focus – mixed with an interest in being actively involved parents and role models for our children – have been the guiding principles of our family decision making and lead us both to career and caregiving identities.
“At the time my daughter was born, we were both lawyers. We discussed maintaining both of our careers and hiring a nanny, one of us working part-time and one of us staying at home. We both liked our jobs but we both realized I got a lot more satisfaction and enjoyment out of my job than she did. We also decided that the nanny route,during the early years was not for us. Angelike’s boss was also not willing to accommodate a part-time schedule.
“Today, we are a family of an 8 year old, a 12 year old, a partner in a law firm and a mindfulness and self-compassion teacher whose work hours are increasing as her parenting hours get cut back. There are a lot of interests and needs to juggle and we approach them the same way we approached that first decision when my daughter was born: we sit down on the couch (all 4 of us), talk about all of our upcoming needs and, together, figure out the best path forward. Because that’s the only path there is.”
Roger started parenthood as an engineer working reduced hours. His wife Shimul, also an engineer, did the same thing.
When Roger’s son was born, both he and Shimul decided to work reduced hours so they could share in the care of their new baby. To begin with – even though they both worked for the same employer and had the same benefits – Roger’s wife assumed she would be the one who worked reduced hours. It was actually Roger who suggested they both could work part time. Now both parents have regular “alone” time with their child. Roger can see how this has helped the couple build a high level of trust.
Both parents feel comfortable in the other’s ability to take on any responsibility in their absence. This feeling of trust has also helped the couple feel closer in their relationship.
What can we learn from these choices?
- Families are diverse – What you want might be very different from the family right next to you.
- Families keep changing – Children change and work is probably going to change as well – change is part of the process.
- Supportive workplaces make a big difference – Roger and Shimul work for a company where people role model moving ahead in their careers while working reduced hours. This made their decision to both work a reduced hour schedule much easier.
Remember – Even in less supportive environments couples can work together to craft a solution that works well for their whole family.
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The New Revolutionaries
Change is possible. Brigid Schulte’s book – Overwhelmed, Work, Love and Play When No One Has the Time – provides the road map to get there:
In Overwhelmed, Schulte describes the web of forces that make us feel stuck in a life that is going too fast – a life that includes little time for reflection and even less time for joy. Outdated assumptions at work, new expectations around intensive parenting, the ever present pull of technology, make us all feel like we are on a gerbil wheel with no exit.
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Schulte asks us to think bigger,
“What if not just women, but both men and women, worked smart, more flexible schedules? What if the workplace itself was more fluid than the rigid and narrow ladder to success of the ideal worker? … And what if both men and women became responsible for raising children and managing the home, sharing work, love, and play? Could everyone then live whole lives?”
At ThirdPath we know men and women who are putting these ideas into practice. These courageous parents and leaders are also showing us that changing our approach to work and family is not just good for their own lives, but also good for their workplaces and society.
Click on the SoundCloud icon to listen to Brigid and two leaders describe how they have redesigned work and family to create more satisfying lives. Or read on to hear how a young dad switched to a four day work week and created a win for his workplace and a win for his family.
CJ – the new revolutionary:
CJ is one of the father’s ThirdPath has worked with to “redesign” his work so he had more time to care for his children. Our job was to help CJ find a “win-win” solution – one that was good for him and good for his workplace.
In order to reduce his workload from five to four days, CJ was asked to think about whether or not he could: systematize tasks to reduce the amount of work required; change who did the work – for example delegating tasks that no longer were a good use of his time; slow down the pace of his work by reprioritizing the deadlines of less critical work.
CJ also noticed how many of his “highest priority” tasks required focused attention for prolonged stretches of time. As the company’s sole engineer, CJ was often the person came to to ask for help – but these constant interruptions got in the way of him getting his own work done.
Although CJ was a little nervous, he decided the next step was to talk to the company’s general manager, Molly, about the suggested changes. And what he noticed was that as CJ sought input from Molly around these changes, they both also became clearer about what CJ should really be working on. CJ explained, “I can get confused about what my top priority work should be because everything seems like a priority. I can see where a regular review of what I am doing could be really valuable.”
“In both areas of my work, R&D and process improvement, I have a list that is two miles long. My daily tasks are chipping away at these two long lists. By having too much to do, all that happens is that the progress in both areas slows down. Now I’ve gotten better at asking, ‘What is my biggest priority?’ and, ‘At what rate do I need these things to get done?’”
Molly also became one of CJs biggest advocates to create routine “quiet time.” Later, when CJ was still challenged by the constant interruptions during his designated periods of quiet time, it was Molly who gently encouraged CJ to take a look at his own inability to say “no” to the various disruptions. “I do enjoy those interruptions,” CJ admitted, “but my job suffers, and engineering and design tasks get put on hold.”
Six years later we asked CJ for an update. What he said sure sounds like a “win-win” to us:
“One of the best thing about the changes I made is that I have more energy at work (which means I’m more productive when I’m at work) and I have more energy at home (which means I’m a better husband and father). Combined with my commute, my work days are long, but then I get 3 full days to focus on my home life. It also means I’ve been able to schedule all personal appointments on Fridays so I rarely if ever take time off work for personal matters, this is a benefit for both me and my employer.”
If you would like to know more about the various ways ThirdPath is helping people create better solutions why not take a look at our many resources. Click here to learn more.
Take A Vacation: It’s Time To Recharge Your Batteries
Here’s what we at ThirdPath have learned about the importance of vacation time.
You can also listen to our Thursdays with ThirdPath webinar where we discussed this topic by clicking on the below SoundCloud icon.
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However – some of us might need to challenge a few work norms to make this happen: the fear of being perceived as an under performer; the pressure to see it as a win-lose proposition – either we meet our client and customer needs or our own personal needs; or the worry that maybe there’s no point to take a week off given the demands to be available while away and the difficulty transitioning back upon return.
But there’s a lot to gain when we push back at these norms.
Here’s a list of things you can do that should help increase the chances of enjoying your time away from work and maximizing the benefits upon your return.
Vacation Check List:
- Plan vacations around the “seasonality” of your work. Try scheduling longer trips for less busy periods of work and “long weekend vacations” when work is busier.
- Minimize the unexpected. Coordinate vacations with your team. Talk to clients a few weeks before leaving. Ask delegates to complete work that needs reviewing a week before you leave.
- Block off pre and post “quiet” work days. Avoid scheduling meetings and phone calls the day before you leave and the day you return to allow for the “unexpected” and for catch up time when you return.
- Create a “what can wait” list. A week before you go, create a list of things that you can wait to get done after vacation, versus tasks that must be completed before you go.
- Decide how “connected” you want to be. If you need to check email or voice messages, plan ahead around what’s least disruptive.
- Carefully define emergencies. Think ahead about what challenges could arise. Clearly define emergencies to avoid everything becoming one.
- Plan ways to fully disengage from work. Avoid the “I’ll just get this one thing done” trap. If you can’t disengage for the whole vacation, set a firm goal to at least disengage for part of your vacation.
- Pre-schedule “check in” calls. Set up meetings or calls to review the work you have delegated to others the second or third day of your return.
- Plan different trips to meet different needs. Family and extended family vacations are fun, but couples may also benefit from having a long weekend away just as a couple.
- Keep track of what worked well. Create a list you can refer back to of helpful ideas for planning your next vacation.
And don’t forget, creating vacations that really recharge our batteries may also require us to change how we approach vacations as a family. Two parents working together as a team to plan and make the most of a vacation, makes it a better experience for everyone involved. (And while your at it, don’t forget to plan a romantic getaway for just the two of you!)
Want a copy of our Vacation Checklist? Click here.
Making the Most of Summer
Think it’s too late to make the most of summers? Think again. Below are some of the things ThirdPath has learned about balancing work and family over the summer. And one of the most important things we’ve learned is that taking 20 minutes to write down what you liked (and didn’t like) about this summer will be a big help when you plan for next summer.
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- In general summers can allow for an enjoyable “slower pace” at home.
- But summers also take A LOT of planning.
- The age of your children will also have a big impact on what happens during the summer. What worked last year might not work again this year since your child is a whole year older!
- Finding the “right” camp can be a highlight, but finding it can be quite a journey.
- Another summer goal is finding the “right” mix of planned and unplanned activities – balancing boredom versus over scheduling.
- Summers can also provide an opportunity for children to develop independent interests, such as reading and hobbies.
- Over time families often develop a rhythm to summers that can last year after year, some becoming deeply valued memories and “family traditions.”
You can also listen to what a few pioneering mothers and fathers had to say about this by clicking on the SoundCloud icon of our Thursday with ThirdPath call on this topic.
Interested in learning more? Here are some summer solutions we thought were very creative …
– Grandparents and extended family can play a great role in summers. Children can spend one or two weeks with them (and sometimes with other cousins as well). This can provide a great opportunity for the two generations to get to know each other and connect.
– A partner in an accounting firm negotiated a “flex year” schedule – working a total of 20 hours during the summer months. This gave her maximum time with her school aged children. Then during her “busy season” – January through April – her husband became the primary parent in charge.
– ThirdPath has also met many families where one parent intentionally became a school teacher as a way to have more flexibility throughout the summers. In one of these families, the other parent negotiated an alternative summer schedule so she could work remotely one day a week.
– Telework can be a great summer solution when caring for teens. It’s also a great option for stretching out limited vacation time. One family planned a two week beach vacation but only used one week of vacation time. They did this by trading off who was working (in the mornings or in the afternoons) while the other parent played with the children at the beach.
Don’t forget our summertime tip: Write up your “summertime” notes, then pull these out in February when you start planning for next summer.
In our last Thursdays With ThirdPath webinar of the season Anne-Marie Slaughter joined us to discuss her ground breaking new book and suggests we need a cultural shift, both at home and at work, that places caregiving on an equal footing with paid work, values child care and elder care and help achieve gender equality for men and women.
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Listen to the wonderful discussion by clicking on the SoundCloud player and read on to discover how prioritizing life alongside work helps us succeed in both.
10 skills for following an integrated career path:
ThirdPath’s Pioneering Leaders have taught us why prioritizing life alongside work improves how we work – even in our new 24/7 business environment! Here’s what we’ve learned from them:
1) Create “quiet time” – Find ways to have regular, uninterrupted work time for thinking, assessing and planning.
2) Tame email overwhelm – Adopt better habits reviewing, managing and responding to emails. It will help you, and the people you email, work smarter.
3) Improve “workflow” – Increase you and your team’s ability to anticipate and manage the pace and quantity of the work you do.
4) Manage the seasons of work – Design systems, both at work and at home, to handle the periods of time when work is extra busy.
5) Design win win delegation – Use delegation as a way to mentor and grow more junior employees and to create more time for your most important work.
6) Take your vacations – Learn how to fully (or significantly) turn off work on vacation. Doing so improves everyone’s teamwork, planning, and creativity.
7) Maintain an experimental approach – Develop and test new ideas that clarify priorities, find efficiencies, and advance goals that support work and life.
8) Develop highly valued non-work activities – Stay committed to your life goals. Your on-going commitment to them will help you become more effective at work.
9) Get to know yourself better – Understand your own personal patterns, especially the ones that get in the way of making the changes you want.
10) Get gentle support from your partner and friends – Ask those closest to you to hold you gently accountable to your whole self.
Want to develop your integration skills and create a better balance between work and life?
Join our OMG! – Overwhelm Mitigation Group – starting this spring.
Email us at: Time4Life(at)ThirdPath.org. Put “OMG!” in the subject heading and we’ll send you more information.
The Three Stages of Elder Care
An occasional personal commentary on work life integration by Jessica DeGroot, ThirdPath’s Founder and President
That handsome couple in the photo are my in-laws. In the Fall my father-in-law suddenly got very sick. But being blessed with four parents who are in their 80s – it gave me and my husband a glimpse into the next chapter of how we will be balancing work and caregiving.
I talked about this with Amy Goyer, an aging and families expert, on our May Thursdays with ThirdPath webinar. Click on the SoundCloud icon to hear how the skills my husband and I developed sharing in the care of our children will come in handy in this next chapter of our lives.
Or read on as I share some of the things I learned figuring out how to integrate elder care into my work and life.
Stage 1 – The Crisis – As my husband Jeff and I dropped our youngest off at college, and imagined our new lives as empty nesters, my father-in-law was admitted to a hospital after a fall, and experienced “hospital induced delirium.” This is a sudden change in a patient’s mental state that looks like full onset Alzheimer’s. 20% of elderly patients get this. Some recover in 24 hours. For my father-in-law, it took almost 4 months. Suddenly our lives were turned upside down trying to understand the problem and figure out what we could do to help him return to his previously healthy state.
Stage 2 – The Continued Investment in Time – Within a week he was moved to a rehab facility. Once there he received a schedule of regular activities to help with his recovery, but it was also clear having people he knew spend time with him was critical to his progress. When left alone, he would regress. But when we made sure a family member was there from breakfast through dinner to talk, read, watch TV and play cards with him, he slowly recovered. Eventually he returned to his own home – at first with 24 hour care – but in time, even this was reduced and then eliminated.
Stage 3 – The “New Normal” – Read Atul Gawande’s book, Being Mortal, and you will understand where we are today. Yes, my father-in-law has significantly recovered. And yes, things could have been much worse. But for most of us, this stage in life brings with it a slow decline in our abilities. Jeff and I also know that stage 3 is the “pre-crisis” stage. And at some unexpected future point, we will both inevitably be dealing with another crisis.
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- Jeff and I have a long history of working as a team to share in the care of our children, and we both equally value creating time for family.
- We both also have a long history of redesigning work to create more time for life. We were both quickly able to reapply these skills to create time (and energy) for this latest change.
- We knew by sharing in my father-in-law’s care – and having someone we 100% trusted help with this care – it freed us up to focus on other things, including the time we needed to spend at work.
- We also knew that when we disagreed about what needed to be done, we had successfully worked out these differences in the past. It was reassuring to know that the flare ups around elder care was just one of the steps towards finding greater common ground.
My father-in-law has recovered, but as Atul Gawande describes in his book, for many of us the end won’t come quickly, instead “the curve of life becomes a long slow fade.” This won’t be the last time one of our parents will need our help. But when men and women work together to provide this care, we will all be better able to manage the changes.
Want help redesigning work to create more time to care for children, an aging parent, or to care for yourself?
During the month of June you can sign up for a free 30 minute consultation with Jessica DeGroot, president and founder of ThirdPath Institute. Go to our “TimeTrade” link and let us know what you’d like to talk about.
Taking a Pause to Reduce Stress – Increases Happiness & Effectiveness
There is a good deal of science that supports the concept that doing less and taking a pause helps us live happier lives AND become more effective at work.
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Read on to discover the 8 great reasons Joe Robinson suggests we take a pause. He was one of the inspirational speakers at the Take Back Your Time conference – (the next one is scheduled for August!) As Joe points out: “Satisfying work and a well-lived life are the result of thinking, assessing, and having the attention to create a better pathway forward. Something no one else can do for us. What you want doesn’t happen on its own. You have to make it happen.”
1. Big Picture Pause.
Set aside a chunk of time, say, 30 minutes this week and then once a month, to think about where you’re going at work and life this year and why you’re going there. What are your work goals? Life priorities? What’s missing from the picture? What do you need to change? How can you do that?
2. Work Effectiveness Pause.
Review tasks and identify ones that are frequent bottlenecks and time-wasters. How could they be adjusted for less stress and more effectiveness?
3. Priorities Pause.
Set aside 10 minutes at the end of the workday or at the beginning to map out the top five tasks on your list for today or tomorrow.
4. Balance Pause.
Each Friday, take a few minutes to assess the state of your work-life balance. Are you out of whack? What needs to happen to have a better work-life fit?
5. Recharge Pauses.
Fatigued brains look like ones that are sound asleep. Pause when the pressure peaks, you’re stuck, concentration fades, the daydreaming begins. Take a walk, listen to music, or plan your weekend to build up energy and cognitive resources again.
6. Free Time Pause.
Take time to put together a free-time log for a week of all your time outside work. Where are the time sinks? Where are the free-time slots you could schedule a new hobby or activity? What would you like to do? Salsa dancing? Cycling?
7. Vacation Pause.
Figure out at the beginning of the year where you want to go on vacation and when you want to go. This makes it easier for coworkers and managers and locks them and you into making the holiday happen at the most opportune time, with plenty of notice to make workflow adjustments.
8. Life List Pause.
Take some time to think about what you’d like to do on this planet for the experience of it. What’s on your Life List? Sail the South Seas? Learn guitar? Keep a rotating list of five experiences and start jotting down steps to make them happen.
Want to learn how to create these pauses, and create a better balance between work, love and play? Join our OMG! – Overwhelm Mitigation Group – starting this spring.
Email us at: Time4Life(at)ThirdPath.org. Put “OMG!” in the subject heading and we’ll send you more information.